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cewolf
17-12-09, 10:29
Hi there crazy capcomers .... ( crazy in complementary way of course ) ....

i am sure that many of you have noticed that i have been absent lately .... ( ya ... come on ... like who cares ?!! )
i had a big reason for that .... and as the title says ...."SHE SAID YES" ....
yup ... she was crazy enough to say yes, and i was stupid enough to pop the question in the first place :hop:

the past few months were the most crazy , intense and hard days of my life ....
what happened was so crazy and like a fairy tale .... if some on told me 6 months ago that i will end up like now ... i would not believe him ... what happened has happened soooo fast , soooo sudden and sooo crazy that left every one in shock .... and mostly me ....

in short i have found my future wife .... and she is a woman that i had never imagined in my life that i would marry her .....

it was soooo unexpected and not like me to do that , it left my family in shock of my decision ... even me never thought it would happen.

the differences are GREAT ....
she is older than me , she is Greek ( i think S_A_S_U_K_E is interested now ) and she is Christian ....

how did this happen ??!!

well ... the story started 10 years ago .... when i went to Greece for my pre-graduation training ...
i met her in Aikido Dojo ..... we had an off start .... i told the Sense of the Dojo before i signed in that i am a Muslim and i am not allowed to touch women , so i asked if is it ok if i train only with men ? he said yes you can chose your partner as you like ....
the next day when i went to train she was there .... she did not know about what i agreed with the sense about .... and she grabbed my foot to correct my stance and tried to show me how to perform a move ( it was clear that sense George did not tell her any thing ) and it was really embarrassing and awkward ... when i refused , she thought that i don't want her to teach me , she got upset ( she was training there ) and she asked me to leave if i don't want to learn !!! i explained to her it was a religious thing ... and it was not that i don't want her to teach me ....

and that was it ... that was the thing that started every thing .... i got her attention ... "why he does not want me to touch him or he to touch me ?! " ..... she started to ask and learn ....
on my 9th day in the Dojo ... i fell and detached my shoulder ..... it was painful .... and it was she who took me to the hospital , i owe her a lot ... i was a stranger in a strange country .... i would not know what to do back then ....
any how .... since then i could not train , so i started to go and just set and watch .... and that gave us the chance to talk more when she had to do some paper work ....
she used to ask a lot about our culture, about religion ( and you people of all people know how much i get excited about such topics ) ....
and that was when i saw with my own eyes how much the west has a HUGE FALSE IMAGE AND IDEA about us .... it was scary .... so i was more than happy to talk with her ( and other people ) and answer their questions as much i could ... i was not good in English back then ( neither she was , so you could imagine how things were ) ....

any how i went back to Jordan and i took her address ...
we kept mailing each other and talk form time to time .... i went to work in Africa and got back to Jordan , one day after 4 or 5 years ... every thing stopped .... i kept sending her sms and she did not reply ... i kept sending her over and over until i thought that she does not want to talk any more , but she could not tell me that ... sooooo i gave up .... that was it ...

but to tell you the truth guys ... she never left my mind , i kept remembering her form time to time ....
then i moved to Kuwait ... started working there .... until one day i went for my vacation to Jordan , on November 2008 i found my oooold phone book in the closet .... it was old that it started to decay due to humidity ... i took it back with me to Kuwait and placed it in my closet there ... then when i got a new desk , i rearranged my closet and put the phone book in my drawer .... that was nine months ago ....

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at that time i checked the phone book and i asked my self ... why did i bring this with me ... most the names here i don't even remember them ....

AND THERE IT WAS ..... HER NUMBER ..... I paused a little, then just closed the book and placed it again in the drawer ... i should not call her ... she mostly changed her number ... it has been 6 years since i talked to her last time ... the numbers of Greece might have changed already ....

after 3 months i was working on my Pc ...i saved my work and all the sudden i opened the drawer picked the phone book , took my mobile and sent this sms
"is this is the phone number of D
if yes please reply to this number *************
if not i apologize for disturbing you"

and shortly i got this sms
"yes im D"

and after 6 years , we started talking again ... that was on 29/7/2009 ... 2 days later i called her on phone...
she told me that she lost her mobile 6 years ago with all the numbers on it , and back then she just left her Job and could not get my email address which was stored on her work PC ... in short she lost her contact with me completely

since then we have been talking EVERY SINGLE day ... she told me that she finally started to understand the things i used to tell her about before ....
she told me about her new job and her life ...
i did the same ....
she started to ask more and more about religion and our culture ... and she started to ask me more about marriage and what are the relationship between husband and wife looks like and the rights and duties of both sides to each other ....

and i was MORE than happy to answer all her questions ... and you can't imagine her shock when i was telling her how things are in Islam .... the image she had had nothing to do with reality ...
and i was more than happy to answer her questions ........

but i was not only happy .... i was also soooo NAIVE ... i did not see that i was not only teaching a friend about Islam and our culture .... i was also hitting a sensitive cord in her heart......

i turned a blind eye to many clear signals all over the way ....
after around 10 days ...she shot a question that i could not ignore ...
"if i become a Muslim ... will you marry me?" ....

of course i gave a diplomatic answer ... i said that just being a Muslim will not mean that the marriage will work ... there are many factors there ... it depends on the 2 persons , plus in marriage you not only join 2 people you also join their families , bla bla bla bla ( really diplomatic , i should run for president of something )

any how .... that day i kept thinking about what she said .....
could it be just a silly question to tease me ....
or there is something more behind her question ( MAAAN I AM SO NAIVE ).
any how i have decided that a marriage between us is a very bad idea ... so i decided to ask he next day about her question ...
if it was just a silly question ( again I AM SO NAIVE) then nothing to worry about ...
but if she STARTED to have some feelings for me , i should finish things before it gets any complicated ....
and i had prepared what i am gonna say for her ...

next day ... i poped the question .... and she told me that there was more behind her question (time for plan B) , i asked her if she wants to talk about it and she said yes ...

AND FOR 3 HOURS ... I KEPT GIVING HER ALL THE REASONS WHY SUCH A MARRIAGE CAN'T WORK, REASON AFTER ANOTHER ... and i was not lieing .... it was the complete truth ...... i did not want to hurt her feelings so i wanted her to realize on her own that marriage between us is a very bad idea ... and mostly it will never work ...
i wanted her to give up BEFORE SHE HAD STRONG FEELING FOR ME AND THINGS GET COMPLICATED ....

i told her that i am a very hard guy to live with... i have a strict way of living .... that she have to give up many things , i told her about the difficulties due to the different of the culture and religion .... that she will have to leave her family and her job and her country ..... i told her about the difficulties due to the different of age , she will have to change every thing in her life , a big change that is really not worth it

3 HOURS ...3 HOURS CAPCOMERS .... WE KEPT TALKING FOR 3 HOURS ....
AND AFTER I FINISHED EVERY THING ... I WAS SURE THAT MISSION WAS ACCOMPLISHED ....
THEN SHE SAID ONE SENTENCE .... IN LESS THAN 10 SECONDS ... ONE SENTENCE .... DESTROYED EVERY THING ( i will not tell what it was , but it was not "i love you ") ...
A SENTENCE THAT NO WOMAN WOULD SAY UNLESS SHE IS COMPLETELY CRAZY ...OR COMPLETELY CRAZY ABOUT ME !!!

I LOST MY WORDS ... I COULD NOT SPEAK .. -FOR REAL- I WAS UNABLE TO SPEAK ... WORDS FAILED TO GET OUT FROM MY MOUTH ... MY BRAIN WAS UNABLE TO PROSES ANY WORD TO SAY ... THE ONLY THING I SAID WAS :"SHUT UP , SHUT UP, JUST GIVE ME A MIN"

I FELT LIKE IF A SIX WHEELER HIT ME AT 120 MILE / H

I NEVER SAW THAT COMING ... I WANTED TO STOP THINGS BEFORE IT GETS COMPLICATED ..... BUT IT WAS ALREADY COMPLICATED ... WAAAY COMPLICATED ...
BUT HOW?! ... WHEN ?? THERE WAS NO TIME FOR ALL THAT TO HAPPEN ...

AT THAT DAY I WAS WALKING IN THE STREET TALKING TO MY SELF ....

I HAVE DECIDED THAT DESPITE IT IS TRUE THAT SUCH A MARRIAGE HAS A VERY LIMITED CHANCE TO WORK...... BUT IF THERE WAS A WOMAN WHO WANTS ME THAT MUCH , I HAVE AT LEAST TO CONSIDER IT SERIOUSLY !!!!

i asked her later ... how did this happen ... when did you fall in love with me ....
you don't become crazy about some one in such short time ...
i asked "did it start in Greece 10 years ago?" she said "No"
"did it started when we were mailing each other in the first 4 years"
she said "no ... at that time i used to think of you as a special friend ...but that was it"
"then when did this start ? ... there was no time for that to happen "
she said "the moment you sent me the SMS telling me that it was you .... it was like if i have found my soul mate after i have lost him for 6 years ... i started to scream in my office ....i don''t know why .... i called my mom , my sister , my friends ... i started to cry "
i asked "but why ... we did not speak for 6 years"
she said "i don't know .... it just happened"

it turned out that she was not only asking me just to learn about our religion and culture .... she wanted to know me as a husband ... she wanted to know if i am suitable for her or not, she could not tell me directly ... she was afraid that she might scare me a way , and i did not see that at all ....
it turned out that i was the man that she only dared to dream about .... she never thought that she will find ... and that is why she was so crazy ....

after that we started talk about marriage seriously ... we placed every thing on the table ...
her worries , my worries , what we need from our partner , what are the red lines that no one should cross , our conditions , the difficulties bla bla bla

we discussed every thing ... from habits and hobbies , up to money and children ... even divorce ( God forbids ) even that most private relation ship between the husband and his wife ...

we talked for about a month ...
during which i tried to keep emotions as far as possible ... for 2 reasons ... First i did not want any of us to base his decision over emotions, and second it was the holy month of Ramadan .... i wanted to focus on praying and worship .. ( which i could not by the way )

after that neither of us has reached to a "NO" answer ... so we moved to next step ...

meeting face to face ... to see each other for real .... to re-discuss every thing face to face, to see if there was chemistry and attraction and also so she would see Kuwait ..... at that time both of us knew that there is an 80% chance for us to say no ...
she came for 9 days.... i begged her not to stay that long , i did not want her to pay much money and in the end she leaves with a broken heart .... it was still a very high chance for me at least to say no...

and she came ... on the 4th of October .... for 9 days ... the most intense and emotion ripping 9 days of my life .....

i picked her up from the airport ....and the moment that i saw her , my heart skipped a beat ....we went out for coffee at 11:00 pm ... and it was the first time in my life that i invite a woman for a cup coffee .... we went out every day ....we talked again over every thing ... she saw the country and the people ... and i got closer and closer to her every day ...every moment .... to a degree that i felt that she is perfect for me .... i thought that i was blinded with love or something .... it felt to be too good to be true ...

then , the most unexpected thing happened ...
i took my decision before her... i said "yes" before she did..... and she was the one in crazy love with me !! ....

around 2 days later .... SHE SAID YES ... AND I PROPOSED TO HER ....
AND SHE SAID YES .... SHE WAS CRAZY AND SAID YES ....:hop:

now we came to the hard part .... she met my mom ...and we went to Jordan for less than 24 hours to meet my father and my step mother ....

of course every one ( my mother, father, step mother even my 3 brothers ) were against this marriage ... and i don't blame them ...any one who knew me even a little will not believe that i would do something like that .... even me ... if some one asked me 6 moths ago if i would do something like that i would have said "NOOOOO WAAAAYYYY"

she went back to Greece ...and the most hard part started for both of us ...
the re-thinking and re-considering.....

during this time we started to know each other more ...
our worries ( especially form my side ) got bigger and bigger ... and my love to her grows bigger and bigger.....
it was really a nerve breaking time for both of us .....


any how ...
we reached to our decision

BY GOD'S WILL, SHE IS COMING WITH HER FAMILY TO KUWAIT ON 01/01/2010 TO SIGN OUR MARRIAGE CONTRACT ....

BY GOD'S WILL, WE WILL BE MARRIED ON THE 4TH OF JAN .....

I WILL HAVE A WIFE ...AFTER SOOOOO MANY LOOOONG YEARS .....
I WILL HAVE A LOVELY SILLY CRAZY DANGEROUS WIFE ( SHE IS THE AIKIDO QUEEN OF GREECE .... LUCKY ME ) :hop:




AND NOW I AM TELLING YOU CAPCOMERS .....
IT IS OFFICIAL ....
BY GOD'S WILL, I AM GETTING MARRIED


I PRAY TO GOD THAT THINGS WILL GO GREAT AND THAT HE WILL BLESS OUR LIFE AND MARRIAGE .....

GOD HELP US


CEWOLF OUT .....
OF HIS MIND AND OUT OF SPACE AND TIME TOO

draconacticus
17-12-09, 10:48
Awesome news! Congratulations to you both!!

Soop
17-12-09, 10:57
Hahah, congratulations to you both!!

Jarlino
17-12-09, 11:09
Listen up Kid, the most important words you'll need in the future:
S'aggapo. (Which is the Greek variant of "I love you" ;D)

This sounds like a great story, and I'm sure I'll have lots of fun re-reading it later on.

Congratulations to both you and your future wife; CE_wolf!

cewolf
17-12-09, 11:28
thanks to you all guys ...
i am just interested to know ... did you all actually read through ALL of the post ...
true it is long but it is really fun to read

Listen up Kid,KID !!! ... do u have any idea how old i am ?!!

the most important words you'll need in the future:
S'aggapo. (Which is the Greek variant of "I love you" ;D) HUH ... TOOOO LAAAATE ... i already know that
it was one of the first things i have learned about after the "YES"

thanks guys ...

cewolf

draconacticus
17-12-09, 11:32
thanks to you all guys ...
i am just interested to know ... did you all actually read through ALL of the post ...
true it is long but it is really fun to read

KID !!! ... do u have any idea how old i am ?!!

HUH ... TOOOO LAAAATE ... i already know that
it was one of the first things i have learned about after the "YES"

thanks guys ...

cewolf

I had to scan read it - I'm at work so I have to snatch chances to read posts, I'll read it fully when I get home.

The other phrase you might want to learn is "yes dear, you're right", anything for a quiet life :p

Soop
17-12-09, 11:33
Yeah, I read it all :)

Jarlino
17-12-09, 11:35
Probably older then me, I'm actually one of the younger regulars.
Pah, that one chance I had to flaunt my knowledge of Greek. <_<

And of course we read everything! It's not like we have anything beter to do, like work or something....^_^'

Spike 74
17-12-09, 11:39
Congratulations :hop:

Kieron Baird
17-12-09, 11:41
Congratulations, I hope things work out for you. You are getting married try and be more positive ;).

thezombiemessia
17-12-09, 11:43
Congrats Cewolf, and many happy wishes for the future.

I hope everything goes alright ^_^

:hop:

II ARROWS
17-12-09, 13:19
she is ChristianChristian is a male name... :eek:

Carbonox_Ratchet
17-12-09, 15:11
Congratulations, buddy! :)

Tenebra
17-12-09, 15:33
Congratulations, Cewolf, all the best

mox
17-12-09, 16:01
Nice story. Congratulations and good luck :mexwave:

Sky_Dragon
17-12-09, 16:08
Congratulations.

JoaoPT
17-12-09, 16:51
Congratulations cewolf and future mrs. cewolf :)

Dante2014
17-12-09, 17:16
D'aww, our Cewolf is growing up so fast. :D

Congrats man, all the best to you and the future Mrs.Cewolf. :)

Sweety Pie
17-12-09, 17:51
Aww how sweet.:p

Congrats Cewolf, you sound like the perfect couple lol.

green51q
17-12-09, 18:47
wow!
that story sounds like it could be a movie or something :P
congratulations, and i am positive you made the right choice!
i am expecting pictures!

Somari93
18-12-09, 12:01
congrats cewolf all the best for you and future mrs cewolf

cewolf
18-12-09, 18:50
I had to scan read it - I'm at work so I have to snatch chances to read posts, I'll read it fully when I get home.

The other phrase you might want to learn is "yes dear, you're right", anything for a quiet life

i hope you will enjoy it ...
and yes .... i have to use these words a lot .... you seem to be an experienced married guy !!

And of course we read everything! It's not like we have anything beter to do, like work or something....^_^'

you made me laugh ....:D
this is why i was asking if you guys read it all , cuase u have things to do .....

D'aww, our Cewolf is growing up so fast.

it is not like i have joined the forum at the age of 12 !!:D

wow!
that story sounds like it could be a movie or something!
congratulations, and i am positive you made the right choice!
i am expecting pictures!


i know ... it is soooo crazy story ....
and i might post pictures later ...



thanks to all of you for your nice words and wishes

cewolf out

Woodlandbunny
19-12-09, 10:11
Awwwwh, congrats cewolf! That's such great news!!

Wishing you all the best for the future. :)

Sinister
19-12-09, 11:59
My phone is almost completly out of battery, it's plugged into my ps3 by a very short cable so I'm in a really uncomfortable position and the text is so small it's giving me a headache, and the only reason I attempted to use the frustratingly slow Internet speed of my mobile phone was because I had heard my girlfriend talking about Monster Hunter Freedom 3.

I usually ignore threads like this unless the are from forum regulars, so I looked to see who posted it, and the topic title was even more intresting when I saw who it was made by, from your prevous posts it was not something I expected of you and I knew it would be rather serious. Yet despite the akward position I'm in, and the fact that I'm Reading it on a phone, I simply had to read it all, it really is quite an incredible story, one that had so many chances to go wrong, yet amazingly worked out! I'm really happy for you and note that this is not something I would say unless I really meant it but, Reading this was far more intesting and rewarding than getting information on Monster Hunter Freedom 3.

Best of luck.

CaptainCortez
19-12-09, 13:55
Well, hopefully it'll work out for you then. Congrats anyway, and have a great future. :)

cewolf
20-12-09, 13:33
My phone is almost completly out of battery, it's plugged into my ps3 by a very short cable so I'm in a really uncomfortable position and the text is so small it's giving me a headache, and the only reason I attempted to use the frustratingly slow Internet speed of my mobile phone was because I had heard my girlfriend talking about Monster Hunter Freedom 3.

I usually ignore threads like this unless the are from forum regulars, so I looked to see who posted it, and the topic title was even more intresting when I saw who it was made by, from your prevous posts it was not something I expected of you and I knew it would be rather serious. Yet despite the akward position I'm in, and the fact that I'm Reading it on a phone, I simply had to read it all, it really is quite an incredible story, one that had so many chances to go wrong, yet amazingly worked out! I'm really happy for you and note that this is not something I would say unless I really meant it but, Reading this was far more intesting and rewarding than getting information on Monster Hunter Freedom 3.

Best of luck.

OK ... YOU READ ALLLLL OF THE POST OVER YOUR PHONE ...:eek:
NOW THAT IS CRAZY ...

I AM REALLY HONORED ....

YOUR WORDS WERE REALLY NICE AND YOU MADE ME REALLY HAPPY

THANK YOU AND THANKS FOR EVERY ONE

CEWOLF OUT

Cerberes
25-12-09, 22:22
.....

Gman707
26-12-09, 09:25
congratulations. I hope you are both very happy together!

cewolf
26-12-09, 16:00
Ada ...

i has been some time since we saw you ...

no need to apologize ... i KNOW that you had your reasons ...

your words .... i have no words ... thank you soooo much
i hope that you will find the happiness that you also deserve ...
you are one of the best ( if not the best ) people that i have met here ...

i wish you ( and pray ) that you will find the happiness and the truth in your life ....

THANK YOU AGAIN


Gman707:

thank you for your sweet wishes ...

cewolf out

The Spirit
26-12-09, 19:36
I am happy for you my friend, Can I be the best man at your wedding? I always want to try out my speeches xD Just kidding ;)

C o n g r a t u l a t i o n s! once again :mexwave:

cewolf
30-12-09, 03:25
ok guys .....

41 hours and 12 mins remaining until my future wife comes to Kuwait !!

and as you all probably know ... I AM SOOOO NERVOUS ....:fear:

WRONG ...!!! I AM NOT ... AT ALL

until now i can't realize that i am getting married !! ....

i still can't realize that she is coming ... i think that i will feel that in the last moments ...

may God help me

will keep you posted ...

P.S: moooooost probably in the next 10 days or so, i will not recognize any of you guys .... i will not reply to any emails or posts ( like if i actually get any emails or whatever !!:D )

see ya ...

The about to get married cewolf out

Megaman
30-12-09, 07:42
this is thus totally different from the western style of living... . and that is ment is the best positive way you could imagine. I have with my future wife 3.5 years a relationship and I met her even in my own town in Temse in my own country Belgium. Anyway best regards to you and your future wife! :high5:

cewolf
31-12-09, 02:41
Thanks Megaman ....

My Future wife is coming today at midnight with her family ....
and i am not nervous yet ...is it normal ?!

cewolf out

Natea
05-01-10, 01:52
Perhaps you found peace with ... it, your decition, the future, the hands of God (g... yeah, as if you'd have had to, but in some cases...)... oh me... preaching again... sorry for the late reply 'bro', couldn't answer this, started reading it but it was too long for me at that time. Phew... hard story bro. I can so relate to that, well... you never know! Dude! So real!

Oh man, well, Congratulations wouldn't really fit in this sense, well, better: CONGRATULATIONS Mrs. Cewolf! :D C'est la vie! Hope you're doing fine, at all, you know, like, no struggle right the first 24 hours or so. ... hm... OK... and well, Congratulatons MR Cewolf. Hope to see some pictures soon!:p

HumanIce
14-01-10, 04:04
congrats, dude.
try not to be too much inside and on the pc all day long, my gf was language! a lot by being too hooked on facebook and msn and never going out with me, making me drive with my mates which all have gf's and my gf is just too busy inside her room <.< doing nothing. it reminded me of myself back in 2007 when I was 16 and addicted to video games and this site. anyway, cya.

EDIT: that language thing, it's like going back in time to this board to 2006 with triple seven as mod, now that cencoring was absolutely pointless. I pretty much said "was making me angry" on a different word. this is the reason I left this board in the first place. terrible pointless forum with rules for softies that couldn't have the guts to step outside. cya guys never again hopefully. always manage to make me annoyed.